{"id":1796,"date":"2009-04-14T10:51:00","date_gmt":"2009-04-14T17:51:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/beltdrivebetty.com\/wyzwmnsworld\/?p=1796"},"modified":"2010-09-29T18:25:28","modified_gmt":"2010-09-30T01:25:28","slug":"the-road-to-hell-is-paved-with-good-intentions%e2%80%a6-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wyzwmn9444.live-website.com\/?p=1796","title":{"rendered":"The road to hell is paved with good intentions\u2026"},"content":{"rendered":"

Yet another old clich\u00e9 for me to fall back upon<\/p>\n

I want to begin this by saying I don\u2019t think that people
are generally malicious by nature
(give or take the occasional pompous ass)<\/p>\n

but I really don\u2019t think that as a rule
people sit up nights
looking for ways to fuck each other over<\/p>\n

I do think that they are self centered by nature and
and as a result hurtful,
because I think this way\u2026 <\/span><\/strong>

I also think that it\u2019s my responsibility to
teach people how I want to be treated\u2026.
cos people can\u2019t walk on me like I\u2019m the carpet
unless I lie down on the floor.<\/p>\n

Easter weekend was a busy weekend for me
what with friends in town from off island
family here from up island
and a renewal of friendships before the riding season
…er so I thought<\/p>\n

It was great to see my old friend from off Island
and it was fun to spend time with family
but the results of the renewal of friendships before the riding season has me sad and feeling somewhat used<\/p>\n

and it\u2019s made me understand yet again
that there are consequences for every action
we purposefully or impulsively take in our lives
either way\u2026there\u2019s consequences.<\/p>\n

to my way of thinking
a person can do something
with the best of intentions
but if they don\u2019t pause to think out the consequences
of their actions
the results can be devastating for someone\u2026<\/p>\n

most specifically if the perception is
that this person did something
behind a friend\u2019s back
and the friend get\u2019s hurt<\/p>\n

And then if that same person
spends the evening
saying out loud
that they were able to keep
“certain undesirable people\u201d
from attending the get together\u2026
and specifying whom
and that they did so
by sending out private invitations
to only the people
they wanted to see\u2026<\/p>\n

then what else are we to conclude
but that one of the people that was not invited
would be the friend who\u2019s feelings got hurt?<\/p>\n

See\u2026also to my way of thinking\u2026
and again also just my own cracker box thoughts\u2026<\/p>\n

one would be better served to have called the hurt friend
in the beginning and saying \u201cwe are having a party
and I\u2019d really like you to come
but I need to let you know that \u201cso and so\u201d will be there
and I know you have a bone of contention
with that person but her husband is a close friend of the guest of honor\u201d<\/p>\n

Wouldn\u2019t facing the issue head on
and sharing it right up front
be less hurtful in all camps
and for everyone involved
in the long run?<\/p>\n

And once again (at the risk of repeating myself)<\/p>\n

when ya make a mistake…
more than half the battle is to say
\u201cI fucked up\u201d
and then shut up
and accept the consequences of one\u2019s action
as opposed to compounding the issue
by overly justifying
their so called \u201creasons\u201d
for the action after the fact.<\/p>\n

If you hurt someone\u2019s feelings
isn\u2019t the best course of action
to apologize and accept the consequences for your action
than to have to deal with all the turmoil
the action caused in your life in the first place?<\/p>\n

Specially if you truly care about the person you\u2019ve hurt?<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t get how getting defensive when called on your actions
could make people view you as less than incorrect\u2026<\/p>\n

Well
it seems to me that it should…
but what the hell do I know?
these are only my thoughts
and I get called on them
every damn day\u2026<\/p>\n

I keep hearing the feedback
about the difference
between friends and acquaintances\u2026<\/p>\n

if that\u2019s how you can get
your personal ethics
around a lack of same in others
good for you\u2026.<\/p>\n

but in my books
friends are people
that don\u2019t try to fuck you over
or hurt your feelings
by hiding the truth<\/p>\n

friends are people
that don\u2019t play games
that may be perceived
as behind your back<\/p>\n

I guess this is why
I\u2019m never gonna be able
to have a gathering
in my home
cos I am so not exclusive
when it comes to my friends<\/p>\n

yet according to some…
I’d be the all knowing all seeing
Satanic power behind every
wrong doing in the universe
from here to eternity…<\/p>\n

Pah!
what the hell do I know?
I\u2019m gonna just stay low n keep moving<\/p>\n

and hope against hope<\/span><\/strong>
I don\u2019t hurt anyone
on the way<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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