{"id":1330,"date":"2007-03-15T07:14:00","date_gmt":"2007-03-15T14:14:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/beltdrivebetty.com\/wyzwmnsworld\/?p=1330"},"modified":"2010-09-29T18:28:44","modified_gmt":"2010-09-30T01:28:44","slug":"once-upon-a-time-7","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wyzwmn9444.live-website.com\/?p=1330","title":{"rendered":"Once Upon a Time…."},"content":{"rendered":"

giving credit where credit is due<\/strong><\/span>
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once upon a time I belonged to an all woman riding club<\/strong><\/span>
they weren’t anywhere near me (the closest member to me being a couple of hundred miles away) so we kept in touch via the Internet<\/strong><\/span>
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I adored many of these woman and was impressed with the strength, sisterhood and solidarity I found there – I wasn’t too keen on their version of “hierarchy” but went with the flow because it made sense to do so if I wanted to be a “real” member<\/strong><\/span>
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over time I did get to become a “real” member – with the assistance of one or some of the ladies that I’d grown close to – I took an oath to the person at the top – to hold her first….to be full and true<\/strong><\/span>
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Then there came a day when it all went wrong<\/strong><\/span>
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for whatever reason some of the ladies made some radical changes (I was never privy to the whys and wherefores)<\/strong><\/span>
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these changed completely threw the lady at the top for a loop<\/strong><\/span>
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she and the person that was closest to me geographically and the only person that I’d met physically told me that the changes were as a result of a lack of “integrity” in the woman that were forcing the change – that they were in fact staging a coup and trying to take the club that she had started away from her<\/strong><\/span>
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my fairness gene kicked in and I chose to stand with these 2 women<\/strong><\/span>
and as a result a truly disturbing time came along…<\/strong><\/span>
the end result being that I completely severed communication from all of them…<\/strong><\/span>
(see what happens when you take people at their word? and how easily words can me miscontrued when there is no facial expression to go with them?)<\/strong><\/span>
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it left such a void in my life….I had no contact with any of them for over a year and then I happened to run into some of them on one of the forums I frequent.<\/strong><\/span>
I almost quit the forum because by that time I was sure that the lady at the top and her friend that I was closest to had lied to me – I had no proof – only gut feelings and I was both saddened and embarrassed for having been taken the fool (we all know how well I deal with that shyte)<\/strong><\/span>
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I decided to “impersonate an adult” and stay on the forum but to steer clear of the ladies I knew so as to avoid any kind of public displays<\/span> or perhaps confrontations
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but I still missed all those ladies and another year went by with me vicariously spotting them on that forum<\/strong><\/span>
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recently, at the behest of another friend, I made application to be in touch with some\/most of those ladies again….<\/strong><\/span>I just decided that the worst thing that they could say was no….<\/strong><\/span>and then I’d be no worse off than I am today<\/strong><\/span>
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and after some discussion and explanations<\/strong><\/span>
I have been given a chance (in my eyes) to return….I explained that I thought I was following my oath….<\/strong>but in the end I don’t think all of them believed<\/strong> me<\/strong><\/span> and in fairness, they were likely as hurt by my actions as I was by their’s.
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here’s the thing – one lady alone had such a profound effect on me that I eventually started the sister blog to this one in which I post daily “quotes<\/a>” as this particular lady has done so on the women’s site in many variations for years<\/strong><\/span>
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this particular lady seems to be the person hardest bit by my having followed the lead of the lady at the top at the time….my impression is that she must feel betrayed by my actions…no matter what my explanation is or was.<\/strong><\/span>
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this particular lady – of all the ladies there, can not or will not speak to me<\/strong><\/span> as I guess I have yet to prove myself worthy – or trustworthy<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

but I can’t help but thinking the fact that I really have to give credit where credit is due…and even if she won’t talk to me and never does again – I just have to put it out there that she truly affected me in a positive and profound way – and for that I am truly thankful<\/strong><\/span>
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Thank you Linda.<\/strong><\/span>
No more and no less<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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